that pain and suffering are as much a part of life as happiness and joy;
that change and impermanence are all we can count on for sure;
that we don't really run the show;
and that if we can't find the maturity to surrender to these difficult truths, we'll always be unhappy that our lives aren't turning out the way we expected or planned.
Life doesn't go the way we expect or plan, and nobody's perfect, not ourselves or our children." -Harriet Lerner